How should the life of a woman in her youth be? It should be the best part of women’s life. In most women’s life, it is the time they start to pursue their dream, expand their social cycle and explore the world.
However, it is different for her who being a young mother since her seventeenth, she had a different youth and young adult experience compared with other women. As the first daughter in law in a big conventional family, she have to pick up great responsibility to the household of the family, which consisted of her parent in law, her own husband and children, and another 10 siblings of her husband whom stayed in the same house before getting marry.
Everyday, she had to start work for chores in the family from early morning. She had to wash clothes for all family members, provided food and cleaning work for the family. Beside that, she also had to do preparation work not only for her husband, but also her brothers in law’s hawker business. In return of her hard work, she got little reward. Her husband was not at home most of the time, instead hanging out with his friend after work, sometime until the next morning. What her husband gave her was little enough to fulfill the needs of her children, thus she even taken up some part time job to support the financial need of the family. With such condition, she still provides the best to her children. Her children received branded milk powder and cloths during the tough time. One by one her valuable jewelries received during her marriage day were end up in the pawn shop. Despite of the difficult time she faced at her young age, she never complaint a word. Out of her love to the children, she just endured everything by herself. She gave up to have a life like other young ladies who demand for beautiful cloths and good food, instead she just sacrificed what she like to give the best she have to the family.
She is my mother, who is so submissive and determines to bring us up out of all cost she have. She shows her great love and strength to bring her three children up without lacking anything. This is the best of her, my loving mom…